Couples & Marriage Therapy IN
LAWRENCE, KS
Making Changes Can Be Scary.
It's vital to understand that the struggles you're experiencing are not unique to your relationship. Many couples encounter difficulties, and it's entirely normal to face challenges in a marriage. The good news is that you're not alone, and there is hope for positive change.
As you navigate through the various stages of your relationship, it's imperative to acknowledge that conflict is an inherent and often unavoidable aspect of life. The initial bliss of the honeymoon phase may momentarily mask some traits or behaviors that can emerge as sources of tension with time. Acceptance, in the context of marital conflict, involves embracing the reality that differences exist between partners, and that not every disagreement can be neatly resolved. Dr. John Gottman's research shows us that a significant portion of relationship conflict—approximately 69%—tends to continue without reaching a definitive resolution. This statistic highlights that each person within the relationship is unique and these differences are an integral part of the fabric of all long-term relationships. Instead of viewing conflict as an obstacle, couples can adopt an acceptance mindset, recognizing it as a natural part of the relational landscape. This acknowledgment sets the stage for a commitment to mutual growth and understanding, emphasizing that the goal is not the elimination of conflict but the development of constructive ways to navigate through it.
What if there was a different path forward?
Navigating the complexities of relationships requires an individualized approach that addresses your unique and specific needs as a couple. You don’t have to stay stuck in repetitive, unhelpful patterns that are contributing to increased frustration. In couples counseling, we will work together to identify individual needs and incorporate a better understanding of the self and relationship dynamics can move you toward appreciating differences and developing strength in knowing how to use your differences to strengthen your relationship.
What to Expect.
Utilizing evidenced-based approaches, we will first work to identify what has brought you to the place of needing relationship therapy. Don’t worry, each partner may have their own thoughts and opinions about what the main problem is. Collaboratively we will work towards creating a roadmap for positive, lasting change in your relationship.
I combine my professional experience in couples therapy with training in evidence-based modalities to move couples toward having the relationship they envisioned. Whether the problem you’re facing is recent or years of small hurts that have built up over time, couples therapy can help you to accept, change, grow, and restore your relationship.
STILL FEELING UNSURE?
It's natural to have reservations or fears about seeking marriage counseling. Three common objections may be:
Partner Reluctance: "What can I do if my partner doesn’t want to come in for couples counseling?"
I understand the challenges of getting both partners on board. Individual sessions can be a valuable starting point, and we can explore strategies to involve your partner gradually.
Time Constraints: "I don't have enough time for therapy."
Sessions are tailored to accommodate busy schedules. Flexibility in appointment times and the option for virtual sessions can make therapy accessible despite a hectic lifestyle.
Financial Concerns: "Can I afford therapy?"
Investing in your relationship is a meaningful choice. We can discuss options that will help you feel more at ease with making this worthwhile investment.
THE TIME IS NOW.
Relationship therapy can be a transformative experience, offering you a roadmap to navigate the inevitable ebbs and flows of your relationship. Through this journey, couples not only learn to coexist harmoniously with their unique dynamics but also discover renewed strength and resilience, ultimately forging a path towards a more meaningful and enduring connection.
If you are ready to take the next step to improve your relationship, I offer a free 15-minute telephone consultation to see if you think we would be a good fit.